looking for new team members to help make a videogame

this is all just useless whining though, c'mon, cave story was made in 5 years. i don't have any excuse for not learning how to program anything after 10 years of Having Cool Game Ideas

Your awful family situation certainly counts as an excuse. I'm sure Cave Story guy had to have the rest of their life sorted out before they could really focus on their game, which is something you're still working on.