RE: help me write a letter to my dad
04-29-2016, 08:24 PM
remembered some more stuff i could add to the list in the first post, if i can find a way to summarize them better
-when i first moved in with him at the age of 11(?) and started going to public school, i got picked on really hard, a lot, and it didn't stop for years because i was too sensitive. his advice for me was to stop being sensitive, literally "stop being a target"
-the first couple friends i made were special ed kids. i wasn't a special ed kid myself, they were just the only people i'd met who were nice to me. i hadn't met any special ed kids before so i didn't have any reference for what was different about them. so, while me and dad were having breakfast at a denny's, one of them recognized me on their way out and said hi. dad realized i'd made friends with a special ed kid, and took it upon himself to explain what down's syndrome was, and that i shouldn't make friends with people who have it, and that i should be making friends with "normal" kids.
-this kinda led into me being super super ableist and afraid of special ed kids for years
-more recently, within the last year, i went to lunch with dad and he recalled how i made one of his friends mad when we took him and his wife to dinner once. apparently, this friend had a son who had pretty bad brain damage (this is my dads words). i didn't know this, and i had said something about special ed kids or something, and our friend told me that what i was saying was offensive. i apparently didn't get the hint, and kept going on, and it made him lose his calm attitude and more angrily say "STOP. It's OFFENSIVE, you're OFFENDING me." to get me to stop with whatever I was saying. dad concluded this recollection of what happened with "It's really weird, I'd never seen him act like that before. He's always pretty calm."
YEAH??????????
-when i first moved in with him at the age of 11(?) and started going to public school, i got picked on really hard, a lot, and it didn't stop for years because i was too sensitive. his advice for me was to stop being sensitive, literally "stop being a target"
-the first couple friends i made were special ed kids. i wasn't a special ed kid myself, they were just the only people i'd met who were nice to me. i hadn't met any special ed kids before so i didn't have any reference for what was different about them. so, while me and dad were having breakfast at a denny's, one of them recognized me on their way out and said hi. dad realized i'd made friends with a special ed kid, and took it upon himself to explain what down's syndrome was, and that i shouldn't make friends with people who have it, and that i should be making friends with "normal" kids.
-this kinda led into me being super super ableist and afraid of special ed kids for years
-more recently, within the last year, i went to lunch with dad and he recalled how i made one of his friends mad when we took him and his wife to dinner once. apparently, this friend had a son who had pretty bad brain damage (this is my dads words). i didn't know this, and i had said something about special ed kids or something, and our friend told me that what i was saying was offensive. i apparently didn't get the hint, and kept going on, and it made him lose his calm attitude and more angrily say "STOP. It's OFFENSIVE, you're OFFENDING me." to get me to stop with whatever I was saying. dad concluded this recollection of what happened with "It's really weird, I'd never seen him act like that before. He's always pretty calm."
YEAH??????????
hahaha i wasted my time on all of you for 8 years.