letter to dad thread (now defunct)

Okay so the first thing you should probably do is look into the logistics of how you could get out and move (ie see what moving states entails). Often its a lot less scary/a big deal when you know what you need to do? I mean i've said before but you really just... Need to get away

Letter wise? Honestly you can say whatever you want, he probably won't take it in. Its all going to be for your benefit, so go nuts. My Dad refuses (or at least did the last time i talked to him) to understand that he's done anything wrong re: years of emotional abuse and gaslighting. When my sister broke off ties he and my stepmum talked about how she was a spoiled, entitled bitch who was being awful and only making dad feel bad right up until she caved and came back, at which point they were Super Best Friends and she could do nothing wrong! During this time he kept asking me why she left, and even though i told him again and again + included the catalyst (him literally telling her to leave and not come back) he refused to take it in. When people get like that they just justify everything to revolve around them being right.

I would probably go with something along the lines of: 'You are a terrible father, and you did a huge amount of damage to me which i hope you feel awful about. Don't try to contact me.' then get the hell out of dodge