letter to dad thread (now defunct)

I would caution that it is worth considering that you may do yourself more harm than good in terms of emotional benefit by ever telling your father what you feel of him and why he has hurt you. It seems to me - and I may be mistaken - that you have given him plenty of chances to understand and he has chosen either to ignore what you have told him or deliberately misunderstand you. He made his choices and when he comes to realize you will never return to your life, he will either have to accept the reasons you already gave that him or live in delusion for the rest of his life. Conversely, I would worry that someone that seems to have such a sense of ownership over you and who believes so strongly in the rightness of their own actions may seek you out for retribution or to prove you wrong if he feels that you are calling him out or are being what qualifies and his paranoid mind as ungrateful.

I suppose basically what I'm saying is consider what you get out of this action and how you think he will react to it. I think it is well that you have given yourself the room to figure out your feelings and grievances in this thread, and whether our not to send a hypothetical letter is a good thought exercise too. Just remember that you don't owe him anything, not even an explanation, and people's beliefs and opinions about you don't affect your reality.