A LANDFILL

Not that we're all perfect and will never be asses to each other ever, but that when we do, we can work it out.

to abridge a point jac is making: you are assuming that everyone is able and willing to 'work things out'

making it the standard that every problem someone has with someone else has to be discussed until some kind of understanding is reached is making a standard that is very nice and easy for people who are good at writing words and having debates and very very bad for everyone else who isn't

if you are hurt by someone's words and attitudes you may not want to talk in pms with them, you may feel unsafe or scared of doing so, and framing that as the best way of resolving a problem leaves a lot of people out in the cold

while it may be an ideal to have reasoned debate, we have to make a forum where people feel safe talking no matter what their writing skills or emotional ability to engage in arguments are