RE: The thread for flipping shits (and tables)
01-24-2013, 10:46 PM
I can at least offer sympathy! I felt very similarly in college. I know what it's like to be frustrated by not feeling like anyone has anything in common with you, and that everyone's a partying frat jock.
Do you have any sorts of activity clubs at your college? All of the people I became friends with I either met through Tabletop Roleplaying Guild, or my major. (Computer Science geeks tend to have a lot in common, and our major was a small major in a small college, so your mileage may vary.) (Also, my freshman roommate was a cool guy, but he ended up joining my roleplaying games anyway.) The good thing about those clubs is that you at least know that everyone there has THAT interest in common with you. And presumably it's a club for something you enjoy doing but can't do by yourself, so at least you'll have other people to do that thing with.
I wouldn't worry about what "normal people" talk about. If it's not what you want to talk about, then don't talk about it. My experience in college was that by the time I was a senior, there weren't any normal people left anyway. Besides, if all you do is talk about stuff that pretends to interest you because it's what normal people talk about, you'll end up with some pretty lame and worthless friendships. Talk about what really interests you and see who listens.
Oh, and as far as changing schools is concerned, if you've always wanted to transfer then you should transfer! Don't trap yourself in a college you don't like! I mean, I don't know what your financial situation is, but you can at least try to get in somewhere else - worst case, they reject you or can't give you the money you need, and you're no worse off. And the fact that you're in somewhere and have a full ride is probably a bargaining chip you can use. Tell them "I'd like to go to your school, but I have a full ride here" and see what happens.
On the other hand, maybe I'm not one to give advice? I did find some friends, but was largely a hermit in college. So I'm not exactly a stellar example of social triumph. I think this is all good advice, though.
I don't know jack squat about meaningful relationships. I'm eternally single and likely to remain that way until I learn how to build sapient robots.
Do you have any sorts of activity clubs at your college? All of the people I became friends with I either met through Tabletop Roleplaying Guild, or my major. (Computer Science geeks tend to have a lot in common, and our major was a small major in a small college, so your mileage may vary.) (Also, my freshman roommate was a cool guy, but he ended up joining my roleplaying games anyway.) The good thing about those clubs is that you at least know that everyone there has THAT interest in common with you. And presumably it's a club for something you enjoy doing but can't do by yourself, so at least you'll have other people to do that thing with.
I wouldn't worry about what "normal people" talk about. If it's not what you want to talk about, then don't talk about it. My experience in college was that by the time I was a senior, there weren't any normal people left anyway. Besides, if all you do is talk about stuff that pretends to interest you because it's what normal people talk about, you'll end up with some pretty lame and worthless friendships. Talk about what really interests you and see who listens.
Oh, and as far as changing schools is concerned, if you've always wanted to transfer then you should transfer! Don't trap yourself in a college you don't like! I mean, I don't know what your financial situation is, but you can at least try to get in somewhere else - worst case, they reject you or can't give you the money you need, and you're no worse off. And the fact that you're in somewhere and have a full ride is probably a bargaining chip you can use. Tell them "I'd like to go to your school, but I have a full ride here" and see what happens.
On the other hand, maybe I'm not one to give advice? I did find some friends, but was largely a hermit in college. So I'm not exactly a stellar example of social triumph. I think this is all good advice, though.
I don't know jack squat about meaningful relationships. I'm eternally single and likely to remain that way until I learn how to build sapient robots.