The thread for flipping shits (and tables)

Well, I was reading an article recently containing observations from some guy who is connected in the venture capital sphere. Something that struck me is that he estimates 9 in 10 people end up not doing a thing they have told him they will do. Like, one e-mail from him has a shot at making some e-biz happen and you’re not e-mailing him a thing you basically told him you have and he wants? I mean, shoot, I’ve been ghosted aplenty but I’m some loner nobody; he’s more “you might be worth a few zillion bucks in five years” stuff. And yet with stakes like that, people don’t do it. Wowie.

So, the relevant perspective shift might be: integrity, timeliness, and being forthright about whether something is gonna happen with whom are valuable commodities and in short supply. Most people appear to undervalue these in others. Many people who have ’em don’t seem to capitalize on ’em properly. Many people never clearly say “no” to others when they can’t commit to something, and the reasons for failing to do this are myriad, but a reason one ought to do it is that it is respectful of all parties’ hopes and time, and tends to leave the door open to a “yes” later on; a waffley “maybe” is gonna be a “no but you’re not worth being straight up to” in practice for a long time. Guess that is a thing I should go see if I need to work on myself.

I don’t deign to speak to your situation and Lord knows I’ve troubles of my own staying in touch with people the past few years. It just turns out basic not-leaving-people-hanging might be expert level (by percentile); you have probably done what you can by reaching out ahead of time. I hope it works out with no lame excuses involved.